Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Fitness Journey and Coaching

Hello from a once bride, to now a wife ;) It's been over a year since I've written a post. Things are always moving, and are very busy. That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Life has changed a little for me. If you follow my Instagram...or if you've peeked at it, you'd notice I've found myself a new journey. A new hobby, a new passion, whatever you'll call it... I've found it's not wedding planning (and thank god for that). Y'all would never guess it from looking at my blog, but I kind of hated planning my own wedding. I might've enjoyed it more if I had a year to plan it. Although, I'm super creative and love DIY'ing, crafts, and anything to do with saving money...I truly am not very girlie, and no I didn't plan my wedding from when I was little. In fact, my best friend and I had a convo about my blog, and how I was living a persona type of life. I just wanted to share my ideas by creating this blog, and lend a helping hand. I am the type of girl who loves sports, and I'm not too crazy about heels. I'm more of a chill human being who likes being casual and cool.

At the moment I don't have any friends getting married, which kind of sucks because I love helping my friends come up with wedding ideas. So here I am with nothing to plan, but a blog to keep a float. I've noticed that my resources have helped my fellow brides out and I couldn't be happier to help. May the force be with y'all beautiful brides out there! Since I love sharing, and helping this is where my new journey begins...

So what can I do to further help all my bridal readers?? Mmmmm well given much thought and preparation on my part, I can incorporate my new journey/passion/hobby into this blog and my readers. I've developed a love for my own personal health and fitness. I've become obsessed, really. Y'all know I have a story about it, so here it goes.

I started my fitness journey (this is what everyone calls it)in August of 2015. I really wasn't serious about it at first. I was just following my fiancé's (then, now husband) lead. We were bored with the normal routine, and pretty much wanted to lose some weight. Now that I look back at it, it's so funny how it wasn't even my idea. Back then, I was naive about the whole thing. I didn't know the first thing about "the gym." I had my own assumptions about what happens in the gym like most people. I assumed the gym was where people who want to lose weight go because they are overweight, or big buff guys go to juice up. Well my fiance pretty much dragged me, under the pretense that I was just going to give him moral support and motivation. In reality, I was kind of in denial at first because as soon as I turned thirty...things started to change. Whether I wanted to believe it or not but my metabolism began to slow down, and I started letting myself go. Yes, that's what I was doing. I was dragging in keeping up with my little sisters, nieces and nephews. I was just living an unhealthy lifestyle. Drinking 10 cups of coke a day, eating fried foods, candy galore, chips, carbs, basically you name it...I consumed it. One summer afternoon, I put on my bathing suit to go swimming with my siblings and I hated what I saw in the mirror. This was a person I didn't recognize. I was athletic, and full of energy in my past. One fact you may not know or like...I am a very competitive person. OMGoodness, am I competitive in any type of sport, games, board games, etc. Competing drives me, and makes things fun for me. I use to run track, I use to play softball, tennis, hand ball, bowling, skateboard, volleyball, etc. with friends and family. I still love it, that'll never change. My body type has pretty much been the same athletic type, which consists of pretty lean muscle, flat chested, small butt, in short...minimal curves. Working out was going to help me get back to the old athletic Jess, and not the potato I saw in the mirror.

(Me in September 2015 just starting out)
Overall, once my foot stepped inside the gym things began to slowly change my life as I knew it. I found myself on the know that machine everyone goes to first?! Yeah you know that's pretty much the only machine everyone feels comfortable with and not very intimated by. That machine swallowed me in for a few months. Yes, I said a few months. I feel so ashamed now that I'm thinking about it. I didn't want to get off that thing. In fact, I would do a whole hour on it. I had a whole routine too...thinking I was actually doing something to better myself, but I wasn't. The treadmill is a great form of cardio but not for the goals I set aside for myself. While on the treadmill I began admiring some of the female specimen who attended regularly. They were HOT! I was so jealous, but never mean about it. I wanted their body so bad. It drove me crazy that they would only do like 10 minutes of cardio and look so good. What was I doing wrong?? EVERYTHING. I was doing everything wrong. I was so uneducated. I wanted results, yet I wasn't actually doing anything to achieve it.

One really amazing quality that you may not know about me is that I love doing research. Especially if I'm really interested in the subject. I can absorb large amounts of information quickly. During these research sessions, I began to learn about everything health and fitness. I'm not going to lie, it was a little overwhelming. There was a bit of a learning curve given the certain terminology that was being used e.g..."macros, glutes, sets/reps, HIIT, core, training, rest day, leg day, etc." I was kind of lost half of the time. It's important to mention I learned this trade all by myself. No one helped me. No one held my hand and showed me the machines in the gym, and explained what they did specifically to build which muscle group. This was exclusively self taught. I went in deep into the research by watching countless videos, reading articles, staying active on, I followed all the big fitness models. I opened a body space, and started making fitness connections with people like minded. I wanted to make sure I was doing everything right, because I was so intimated by the fitness world. It's such a big industry, and I'm sorry but being fit is trending. Everyday, I found myself doing research, learning about supplements, form, muscle building, name it I was all over it. I was so curious, and yet so anxious to start the biggest project I EVER came across...MYSELF.

Project bettering Jess commenced in January 2016. The goal I set for myself...bigger booty, and letting go of all insecurities I may have at said gym. I forced myself to come out of my shy shell, and start working on the glute machines. This was a big step for me, because I was so self conscious. I didn't like that people were there...potentially watching me (hands over my eyes ha). That's a little out of character for me, because I'm very easy going, and friendly but the gym really intimidated me. Slowly but surely I made the gains I was looking for. As I got comfortable with the process, I started taking pictures after every work out. I didn't take any before pictures which kind of sucks. I had old pictures to kind of compare my results too, which helped me with my motivation. Once I saw the progress in my pictures, I was so proud of myself. I started challenging myself more. I made more goals for myself, and the addiction is continuing forward.

That's where I've been, and that is whats consumed my every minute. So here we are. How will this help you? Every bride wants to lose some fat, maybe fit into a slim wedding dress, look good on their honeymoon, no? Well I've got a transformation pictures i would love to share with you. Maybe it'll inspire you, motivate you? Maybe you'll come back in the future and follow some of my tips and advice when it comes to losing fat, being fit, eating right? Let's see...because I have so much wisdom I'd love to share with you, so long as you want it.

As you can see, my body is constantly evolving. It's really been a journey to get to this point, and surprisingly, I have so much more work to go. I can help you with results, motivation, ideas, food, supplements, etc. Let's see where we can all go from here.
From wedding planner, to bridal fitness coach! Let me hear your thoughts. What you want know? What questions, you may have?

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Thursday, April 14, 2016

'Tis the Night Before My Wedding...a DIY Cautionary Tale

'Tis the night before my wedding, when all through the house
Creatures were stirring, but not even a spouse
200 flowers were all flung around the sink without a care
In hopes that DIY'ed bouquets would soon be there.

The wedding party were all snug in their beds.
While this bride, and her best man were left pounding their heads.
And we assembled 20 bouquets without a gap
But now it's 2 A.M. and no where near time for a nap.

LOL ok, ok, you get the point. So it was the night before my nuptials, which so happened to be nerves were all out of wack, and I had one person keeping me grounded and brother, the man of honor. The day before my wedding was like someone pressed the fast forward button on me. I don't know how my to do list went from 10 things to do to 50 things. In which only half of the things got It's so crazy to think about it now. I didn't get to sleep until 4:30 AM what was suppose to be the night before my wedding, which turned into the morning of my wedding. I basically got 3 hours of sleep. How? Why? What? You may ask? So how does this post help you? I thought I'd tell you my story...not to scare you out of DIY'ing your wedding, but to give you a cautionary tale. A story I hope you can learn from, and not end up like me.

I got it into my head that I was going to DIY most of my wedding decorations. Which actually turned out quite beautiful. Only problem's a pain in the you know what. I really F'ed myself when it came down to the flowers.

In terms of my wedding flowers, I DIY'ed ...

  1. My bridal bouquet, along with 
  2. Five bridesmaids bouquets, 
  3. Four nieces bouquets, 
  4. Three mothers bouquets, 
  5. Eight men boutonnieres, and 
  6. Twelve tables centerpieces. 
  7. Flower girl rose petals
  8. Rose petals to cover and surround the aisle

I shot myself in the foot is what I did in plain words. Two days before the wedding, I spent that day with my man of honor. We picked up all the wedding flowers, thinking we were going to get them done way before the wedding. We pretty much went to the store a hundred times getting things that were forgotten about. Spent a large portion of our time trying to figure out what we were going to do with the flowers to make them look nice. We searched the internet and played around with the flowers. You'd think I would've thought of this before picking, and purchasing these flowers. Nope. Not me. All I knew was that I was putting them all together and tying a ribbon around them. DONE.'s pretty sad that I lacked a feminine touch in this area. My man of honor, stepped up for this part, and thank god for him!

Just to give you an idea, I choose these flowers...

  • 25 white hydrangeas, 
  • 150 light pink roses, 
  • 10 blush peonies, and 
  • 3 bunches of greens called Isreali Ruskus

The reason I decided to have hydrangeas was to basically save a buck. Honestly, they're huge and take up a lot of space. Which makes bouquets and centerpieces look full, and it means I can spend less on other flowers. It was a great choice, BUT (note the BUT) you have to keep them hydrated. Hence their name If you don't keep them hydrated they will inevitably turn in color, separate, and start wilting quickly. They were the biggest pains. What was my total bill for all these flowers? I paid $218.38 for everything. That covered, five bridesmaid bouquets, four nieces bouquets, three mother bouquets, eight boutonnieres, twelve vase centerpieces, rose petals for the flower girl to throw, rose petals that surrounded the aisle and most importantly my bridal bouquet. Still cheap enough, but what a headache.

I'll paint you a little picture. So it's Thanksgiving day, and I'm soaking 25 hydrangeas in my bath tub...trying to steam my dress, and packing my car alone. Since it's Thanksgiving I have family obligations to show for dinner (Thanksgiving is the reason why I had to pick up the flowers earlier than expected. As Friday was my wedding day). As I'm stressing out, I keep receiving text messages "Where are you?", "How much longer?". You'd think! You'd think they would forgo Thanksgiving like I was, to help me with my wedding, and rude. LOL In no way shape or form am I serious (it would've been nice without the added pressure though). To make a long story short, I had my Thanksgiving dinner, forgot about my wedding for a few hours, went late night Black Friday shopping for wedding things, talked to my photographer, and before I knew it I lost track of time. It truly flies bye. I must mention that it takes me an hour to go to my dads house, and another hour and thirty minutes to get back to my brothers house. So BOOM two and a half hours were lost, just like that. I was staying with my brother that night. You know, have a bro's night with laughs and relaxation.

By the time, we got ready to make all the bouquets, and boutonnieres it was late. We stayed up talking, and constructing every bouquet and boutonniere. Sure we had a lot of laughs, but we wished it went by faster. We finished at 4:30 A.M. It was horrific, and rough. I hit the bed, and with all the stress roaming in my mind couldn't sleep. I just remember my alarm sounding on my phone. It felt like a second of sleep. Since I was DIYing my wedding decor, and what not. I had to be at my venue at 8:00 A.M. to set up tables, chairs, and you know EVERYTHING. My wedding was suppose to start at 4:30 P.M. Bahahaha, what a good laugh. Nope that didn't happen. Here's a snap shot of my bouquet, and the centerpieces.

Not only did I decide to DIY my wedding, I foolishly decided to DIY my hair and makeup. This is something I regret. Although, I did a great job curling my hair, and doing my makeup...I wish I would've invested in this. I didn't think of how I would look for my wedding photos I'll have for the rest of my life. BUT OH WELL.

What did you learn?
  1. If you are DIYing, do it in a timely fashion. 
  2. The flowers are so hard to DIY too early. I would say to make your wedding bouquets the day before, you know in the morning. Put them in vases, put them in your refrigerator, or a very cool place. 
  3. Have help! I had six bridesmaid (all my sisters, and one sister in law)...why was my man of honor, and I the ones stuck doing this job alone? Pick your bridesmaids carefully. They need to be there for you the whole way through. That's just the way my cookie crumbled. Learn.
  4. Don't get too distracted from your wedding. I lost track of time, and got so distracted. 
  5. PLAN accordingly. If you think you have time...YOU DON'T. Add like two more hours than you thought to every DIY project. 
  6. Try not to have a wedding so close to a major holiday...if you can avoid it. 
  7. Just breathe. Just try and have a good attitude. 
  8. Appreciate those who are there for you no matter what. 

Wedding planning, is a fun and wonderful journey. Have fun with it. If you decide to do a last minute wedding like I did...may the force be with you. In the end you'll survive. Women take wedding planning so seriously because we feel this pressure to make our first day as husband and wife...and both families coming together perfect. Our wedding reflects on us brides more than the groom. But it doesn't have to be overwhelming, it's fun. I hope you learned a little lesson from my story.

  • Would I DIY my wedding flowers again? Absolutely! Without a doubt, I would plan better, but I would DIY the wedding flowers. It will save you so much money in the end. You just have no idea how much a florist will up-charge you! 
  • Find a wholesale flower location. This will probably be located in the Downtown, city areas. Mine was located in Downtown Orlando. Google these places, and stop by to check them out. Don't be afraid to get out there. That's exactly what I did. 
  • If you can't find a wholesale florist...wholesale clubs work too! Sam's Club, Costco, BJ's, etc. These places always have nice flowers. Talk to the manager, ask to check the list of flowers they'll be getting around the time of your wedding. If you have to stop in one of these clubs to get flowers the day before...DO IT. I actually did this with a friend for her wedding...ON her Wedding day! lol  
  • Negotiate! Don't be afraid to wheel and deal! These florist are looking to get rid of flowers, because I'm sorry but we all know flowers can only last so long. My trick is to mention CASH! 
  • I always love to just talk to whoever I'm negotiating with. Get to know them, ask them questions. I let them think they are teaching me something, people love that. The prices start to go down when you mention referrals! Oh hell yeah they do! Business is number one. 
  • Once you have flowers, you need vases or some type of flower holder right?? Get your bridal butt to the Dollar Store. Just do it. Don't whine about it. They have nice vases. The vases I used were bought from the Dollar store! BOOM! Michael's had the same exact vase for $3.99. COME ON! I am not the one. I also found AB crystals there.  
  • Let's talk ribbon...I did go to Michaels for this. Use a coupon people. There's not a day I go to Michaels that I don't see a 40% off coupon right on their website. Pull it up on your phone. 
  • You'll also need floral tape. Get it, and use the 40% off coupon again.
  • Figure out how you want your flowers to look. There just flowers at the end of the day anyways. People were killing themselves trying to take the whole centerpiece at the end of my wedding guys! No there just flowers no matter how you splice it. They will die in a few days. Keep your flowers simple. 
  • Go to this website... 100 Candles and get some remote controlled submersible tea lights! Just buy the remote tea lights. It's so easy. Turn them on manually before the wedding. Then shut them off with the remote until your ready to use them for the reception. Have your coordinator or whoever turn them on. Its that simple. They will last your entire reception and more. They add so much to your centerpiece and they're still cheap. Guests were literally trying to walk away with my centerpieces. lol 
  • Get creative but keep it as simple as possible. You can do it! 
I had so much fun planning my wedding (cough cough). It's an experience I'm glad is over, but I loved spending time with my people. Not only do I get to see my people often, but we can talk about ME the whole time...AMAZING I loved planning my wedding, but most of all I loved watching my guests mouths drop when they found out I DIY'ed, what they thought I bought. The amazement on their face was priceless. I wish all my brides reading this all the best of luck, You can do it! It takes time, patience, and might not be able to sleep the night before your wedding, but it's all worth it :) Any questions? Just shoot me a comment. I'll gladly answer. 

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Tuesday, February 9, 2016

The 10 Important Wedding Songs...

Over the years I've come up with posts about first dance songs. I was absolutely obsessed with what song my new husband and I would dance too. Not really realizing that I needed to focus on the rest of the weddings music as well. I found myself on my own blog searching for songs for walking down the aisle, my bridesmaids walk down the aisle, the father daughter dance, the mother son dance, the songs we must have at our reception, etc. That would be the very important ten songs. I'm being a little general, because not everyone uses all ten, or they have even more songs. Whatever be the case, I was so mad at myself for not being somewhat prepared. For a last minute wedding, it's so hard to do everything in such a short amount of time. My problem was that music is such a huge part of the wedding. I wanted to set the mood for my wedding, while keeping to my style of music. It was really hard. I was searching for songs any chance I had for over two weeks.

            No one told me finding music for my ceremony and reception was going to be so tedious. Not to mention I had to get songs approved by my future husband...and sometimes if I'm being honest with you was great and others a complete mess. LOL yes my lovely are just as difficult as women.

            Anyways, I'll do a break down of the music I had at my wedding to hopefully give you some ideas. My DJ helped me out with playing slow classical music during times the guest were waiting. So I was lucky I didn't have to find that type of music. The only thing I would tell you is to emphasize to your DJ to not have the music blaring loudly during these times. My DJ was right on when it came to the volume of the music. I was lucky to have a friend refer him to me.

Here are the 10 songs ... and the songs I used

Ceremony Processional

1. Mothers, Nieces, and Bridesmaid walking down the aisle song
Once Upon a Dream Instrumental

            I really love this song from Sleeping Beauty, and if you know me I'm a huge Disney fan. I have the words of this song glittered up on my filing cabinet. So once I found this I felt like it was perfect for my families walk down the aisle. 

2. My Father, and I walk down the aisle song. 
Falling Slowly by Once (Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova

          I must highly recommend any bride to play this song during their walk down the aisle. I had my guests in tears...not to mention the bridal party. It's just a beautiful song, and it's been a favorite song of mine for years. The walk down the aisle is the most important song in my opinion. It sets the mood for your union, and for your guests who are witnessing it. I was really big on not doing a traditional ceremony, and since I had a backyard wedding, this song went perfect. I had guests telling me that this song was so perfect, and so beautiful. We've all heard that traditional bridal march...which in my opinion is kind of boring, and just not me. If you want a romantic song, and nontraditional song, give this song a listen. 

         We didn't have any music playing in the backyard of our I do's. I choose not to play music, because my voice is just a tiny one. When I speak loudly it's not natural and it's strained. So I didn't want to yell my vows so the guests could hear. Not to mention, I wanted the moment to be intimate and have all the guests focusing their positive energy towards us. 

3. Recessional....After the I do's...I walked hand in hand with my new husband to this song...
Ho Hey by the Lumineers

Backyard wedding...Happy song...a little country, and a little hipster in it. My husband and I both loved this song, so why not? 

Reception songs...

4. Bridal party, and Bride and Groom Entrance song...
Black Betty by Ram Jam

This is a classic song why not! Yes I honestly played this song as my bridal party were introduced, and then Mr. and Mrs. Hernandez. I wanted to have fun! We're not an uptight bunch. My bridal party had so much fun with it, and so did we. It was a great day song to get the party started.

5. First Dance Song.
After All by Peter Cetera and Cher

There was a lot of thought that came with picking our first dance song. My groom was surprisingly helpful when it came to choosing this song. We both agreed this would be our song, mainly because it's so fitting to our relationship.

6. Father, Daughter Dance
Butterfly Kisses by Bob Carlisle

Yes, this song is a wedding cliche but my father dedicated this song to all his girls. I started this song from 2:49 minutes, because I knew my dad and I both didn't want to dance the entire song. I had to find the perfect place to start this song, and I had some tears in there. It's an emotional song. It's really hard not to shed some tears while dancing with your dad to this song. Be prepared. 

7. Mother, Son Song
The Man You've Become 

My mother in law, and fiance choose this song. They started the song at 2:14, and ended it at 2:50. It was a beautiful song. Their dance was very sweet too.

8. The Bouquet Toss
Single Ladies by Beyonce

This song was suggested by my DJ, and it's very fun!

9. The Garter Toss
Can't Get Enough of Your Love Baby by Barry White

I love this song... and honestly the guys had fun with it. 

10. Cake Cutting
Marry You by Bruno Mars

I didn't assign a song for this part, but I wish I had. This would probably be my pick.

That would be the general list of songs every wedding needs. It was such a hard job, so what I've decided to do is come up with a short cut for all my readers. Yes...I will be making lists (probably short ones lol) for every important song for your wedding. Give me some time though because that's a hard job. Keep in mind, I have a love for new...unique songs. Not to mention my love for Indie rock. So bare with me, I'll get it done. Keep your eyes out for it. Well readers, I hope you enjoyed the musical glimpse into my wedding, as well as some ideas for your own wedding. Until next time :)

Tuesday, December 15, 2015

Last Minute Wedding

Hello to all!
I know I've been MIA on the blog front, but I don't feel guilty. It happens as a blogger. You start a blog, and blog everyday for a few months. Once the excitement slows down, you get distracted, and writers block invades your mind. All of which is very true for me.
Since I've been away one very major detail in my life has changed...I got married...tied the knot...jumped the hitched... This all happened in 53 days! Yes, you're reading this correctly. I planned a wedding with about 65 people in attendance in just 53 days!

On November 27, 2015 I became Mrs. Hernandez!

Let me start from the fiance (husband now) and I had just come back from visiting his family in Massachusetts. In a matter of a few days we decided to get married. Just like that! Then 53 days later I found myself walking down the aisle. It literally feels like a huge dream. It's no joke...the days really do fly by! Well here I am weeks later finally getting around to making the post! I'm a married woman! 

Above I have a picture of where the ceremony took place. My husband and I were very fortunate to have a friend lend us his backyard. Yes this beautiful backyard belongs to our friend. I couldn't imagine a more beautiful place than his backyard. We also rented a gorgeous tent, with all the fixings...tables, chairs, bar, dance floor, etc. for our reception.

Basically, I put my DIY cap on and DIYed the hell out of my For a last minute wedding, it was beautiful. Here are a few pictures of the table settings. My wedding colors were Navy blue, blush pink, and gold. I didn't want to go gold crazy, so I put it in little details. I really wanted the Navy Blue and blush pink take the lead. The gold glitter just made it a little more romantic.

That's all I have for now. Stay tuned because I have so many pictures, and DIY projects I wanted to share with you guys. Until  next time...

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Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Kindness is a Language

Today, I wanted to talk a little about kindness. It's something that we all learn at a young age. You remember when it came to being nice to your sibling(s), sharing with friends, and keeping comments to yourself. My parents wore out these phrases when I was growing up... "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." Or "Treat others the way you would like to be treated." and "You catch more bees with honey." 

I grew up knowing exactly what it meant to be nice to others. The reason why I'm writing this post, is because lately I've been practicing being kind, and I've seen the effects it has. Recently I've been in different situations where it would be understandable if I got very upset, and forgot all about being kind. 

1. My next door neighbors...they haven't been the best or even friendliest neighbors. Their kids are always running around breaking windows (yes our window), or scratching our cars, and our guests cars with balls, bikes, etc. It hasn't been easy. Well along with all that, they're so noisy! I hear them screaming from the top of their lungs at ALL hours (yes, all hours of the day)! Let's get back to being kind.
I was in my office working, and all I could hear were these loud booms, and a kid screaming numbers loudly (veins popping out loudly). It was around #16, that I reached my limit. Granted, I've never really had a conversation with my neighbors, because well...they're not really inviting and they're just annoying. I walked out, and starting walking up their garage to find a bunch of boys around a weight bench. (lol) They were doing weights? (I don't know if that's the proper way to put it) 
Surprisingly, I put a smile on my face, and said hi in the friendliest tone possible. I nicely explained that I had been working, and that I was distracted by the noise. I asked nicely if they could keep it down. Just as simple as that. The kids apologized, and I left saying my please and thank you's. I haven't heard a peep since :D

2. Just the other day...Gil (my fiance) and I stopped into KFC because we were hungry and it was late. When we ordered the food, the guy taking our order in the drive thru was not very nice. He was being a jack____ (fill in the blank). I know not to make any fast food worker upset, so we were kind. We asked for fresh chicken, he insisted it was fresh. Upon getting the chicken I noticed it wasn't all that fresh. So we kindly asked again for fresh chicken. The KFC guy again wasn't very nice, and told us it would be a five minute wait. 

Well fifteen minutes later, waiting in our car I got upset. I told Gil I was going to go in to get hot sauce. I wanted to make sure to fix this situation before both of us got upset. I waited at the counter for a while before anyone noticed. Finally I got the attention of the same guy that was taking care of us in the drive thru. I thought I was going to rip off his head, but I thought for a second. He must have been having a really bad day. Not every customer is kind like Gil and I. So I cut him some slack, because the look on his face told me I was exactly right. 

So I smiled, and asked him for some hot sauce, and asked him about our order. I talked to him like he was a human being, like he was my best friend. He immediately apologized and got to work on it. This guy was so upset at himself, I felt bad for him. He quickly handed me cookies, and my favorite chocolate chip cake as a way to make it up to us. I waited another ten minutes, but I waited with a smile. Rather than throwing a fit, and ruining both of our days, kindness worked best. It again proved to me that it's better to be kind. 

3. Here's where I keep it even more real...I've been in disagreement with a certain family member in my life for about two months, but if I'm being honest it's been way longer. When I say a disagreement, I mean we seem to not be on the same page of kindness ever. The _____ hit the fan two months ago, and I got hurt for the umpteenth time. My very first reaction was to get angry and argue but I decided to do the best thing possible for the both of us. I let this family member go. No matter how much I love this person, I love myself more. When someone consistently treats you poorly, they secretly hate themselves for being so negative, even more when you're too nice a person. I felt like the kindest thing to do was let it go, along with any relationship we might have had. It wasn't, and hasn't been easy. 
By removing myself from our relationship and their negative actions, I feel like I am doing both of us an act of kindness. Not everyone knows how to be kind, or what it means. Maybe now this certain family member will be happier, at least that's my hope and wish.

Well I hope I proved that being kind is well worth it. I will leave you with these sayings..."You catch more bees with honey." "Treat others the way you'd like to be treated." "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." 
Do you have a story about how kindness changed a situation for you? I want to hear about it, so don't be shy. Leave me the story in my comments, or my email. 

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Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Summer Essentials with Boohoo

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Hey y'all, I hope everyone's enjoying their Tuesday. As you might know, I live in Florida, which means its hella hot outside. I literally try to avoid any contact with the great outdoors for the next three months. Some days the humidity smacks you in the face, and others the rain wipes out any cute hair do's made. However Florida does have some great weather moments. When all humidity, heat, and rain are gone, you have a beautiful thirty minutes, before it all comes back. If you live in Florida then you know exactly what I mean.

For some odd reason, the weekends have the worst weather. Especially when you plan a beautiful summer BBQ, and you tell all your friends and family to come over, only to get wiped out by the rain. We usually never know how long the rain lasts, but it usually stops when you're done grilling all the food in the rain, soaked and wet. Ironically the sun comes out, and shines brighter than ever. Haha!

The weather is such a "great adventure" in the summer for Florida. That's why I thought I'd make a summer with boohoo post. No need to give into the weather, when you can still look cute right? These are my favorite summer essentials. This is my go-to casual look for the everyday. You might notice, I added my favorite necessities...sandals by Tory Burch which sell themselves, I mean who am I kidding. Good luck getting a pair of these below $100. Then there's Rebecca Minkoff handbag, she seems to be the new IT designer these days. The links at the bottom should take you straight to the product.

In other news...I've been participating in the June photo challenge on Instagram since last week! To see my photos, head over to my Instagram (@sleeplessdiybride_blog or go down to my signature at the end of this post, that's where one of my instagram icons are located...or go to my the top of my page where all my social media icons are located). Oh and don't forget to follow. (hashtag #bloggersgetsocial.)
Here is one photo I took, for sunglasses :)

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Friday, May 29, 2015

What it's Like to be Apart of a Blended Family as told by Minions

Welcome to my big fat blended family!! LOL Last year I made a post called My Big Fat Blended Family, in which I talked about my process with my blended family. Like I said before, it wasn't easy, but given love, time, and patience we conquered it.

Well this time, I wanted to do something fun, and share exactly what it's like to be apart of a blended family in the daughter/sister/son/brother point a view, but told by Minions!!

1. Watching Movies with your blended family: The funny parts are much funnier. 

2. No matter what you always have a place to sit and never share your popcorn. lol 

3.You always have stupid inside jokes with your step siblings/siblings.

4.You never get bored when you have all your siblings (step) around.

5. Play fighting with your siblings (step), big or small is always entertaining.

6.Playing a practical joke never gets old!

7. Watching your older parent get on fast rides with the younger generation siblings.

8. That face you make when your step parent made your favorite meal (For me it's my step mom)!

9. You have more family to watch your back, and look out for you.

10. They will never let you fall!

11. You always have a shoulder to cry on and rely on.

12. Bickering means you really love each other.

13. They always tell you exactly the way it is.

14. There are more people to love equally.

15. You get more birthday presents!

16. You now have more protection! No one should ever want to mess with you, and your huge blended family!

17. You always have someone to watch the game with. For me its the NBA Playoffs

18. When you have step siblings, siblings, little siblings, whatever it may be...Outdoor activities are always adventurist.

19. There's always that one family member that can clear a room!

20. That moment you finally see your blended family after some time apart.

21. Playing sports with your blended family becomes so interesting and clearly competitive.

22. There's always that one moment, an accident occurs, while playing outside. The youngest is usually the one who gets hurt in our family.  

23. The gossip is always good! Plus they always keep your secrets.

24. They always understand you even if you don't make any sense. No need to be someone you're not around them.

25. After years, finally coming together to UNITE as one big happy blended family.

At the end of the day, we all love each other.

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